What Guys need to know about Wedding Etiquette.

While most of my friends, are getting asked the question, I just got wished a happy anniversary by my blog.  No need to fret. It’s a good relationship. I write when I want and even when I’m gone for a month, it still welcomes me back!flower girl

In all seriousness,  weddings are a huge part of my life right now. It’s like I graduated and they just started happening. Only five months after graduating from Baylor I will have been in three weddings,  invited to eight ceremonies, attended ten showers, and been a part of countless engagements and parties. (and this is only the current count!) My mom even told me that I needed to get more magnets for the fridge to hold all the invitations…

Between my wedding duties and working at a mens clothing  company, I have run into multiple wedding feaux pas committed by gentlemen, who I assume didn’t know any better.

Whether you’re in the bridal party, an attendee, or the groom himself, do yourself a favor gents, and make sure you abide by the following:

1)RSVP CARDS

If  the invitation has your name, along  your long term girl friend’s or a “plus one”,  then you’re set to bring your girl. If it is addressed to you solely, then you are the only one invited. Do not, I repeat do not, RSVP for more than yourself. You’d think that this is common knowledge, but it’s not. For example, one of my friends who is getting married, recently had a guy RSVP to bring himself and three friends he wanted the bride and groom to meet. Not. Okay. Ever. Most of the time, people have a limited amount of seating and you cannot bring more than you are allotted. Plus, if you’re  not seriously dating anyone, then why would you want to bring a date? Don’t you know weddings are good places to meet girls? I for one do not bring a date if I don’t have to- weddings are more fun when you don’t have to baby sit someone!

2) Wedding Shirts

I work mainly with J. Hilburn Custom shirting. At least once a week, I receive desperate please from grooms, groomsmen, and wedding guests who must have their shirts in an extremely short  and impossible amount of time. Why must guys wait until the very last minute to order something they have known  months in advance about? More importantly why do they think our custom shirts are made by wizards and could miraculously be produced in less than two weeks, when we advertise three to four weeks.  I’ve even known guys to wait until the last minute to purchase off the rack shirts. It’s insane. Guys, if you can’t remember to get your shirt in time, get your girlfriend or mother to take you. I’m sure they’d be overjoyed to help you!

3) Groom’s Family’s responsibilities

Sometimes due to different cultures and sometimes ignorance, the groom’s family doesn’t know that there are certain things that they traditionally pay for. Here is a list of the main things that the groom’s family traditionally covers:

-rehearsal dinner invitations

-rehearsal dinner

-bride’s bouquet

-female family members’ flowers

-usher/groomsmen flowers

-marriage license and officiant fee

-honeymoon

Obviously this is not an extensive list, and it is certainly not followed 100% of the time.

I have a few bridesmaid-ships under my belt, so I have witnessed these issues first hand. It’s not a lot, but in wedding planning, every little detail counts.so try and be courteous of your bride to be!

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I’m a bow tie kind of girl.

We all know that bow ties are in right now- whether you’re a fratstar or a hipster, they look good. But what about for girls?

If you have read my previous posts, you know how I feel about menswear. For those who are new, I LOVE menswear. I seriously could dress guys all day long and be content… J. Crew, will you take me?

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Anyway, another point I’ve made is how I like to wear mens clothing such as shirts or cardigans. An androgynous look with a feminine twist is very in right now. One accessory that is gaining wide spread popularity for women to wear is the bow tie. This summer when I was working for JC Penney, there were a couple of girls who came in and they were shopping for bow ties for themselves! At that point, I knew I was not alone in my love for the accessory!

One of my favorite things to sew for Southern Elle are bow ties. I got so jealous that I started making them and wearing them as headbands. My sister looks adorable rocking this maroon star bow tie headband. I have a tendency to buy fabrics that are pretty and then figure out what I’d like to do with them. I fell in love with a brown cotton blend with white polka dots and decided to make a bow tie out of it…for myself.  I love the way it looks with the chambray shirt. I’ll definitely be wearing it again. But don’t my word for the trend…Check out the Ralph Lauren ad below. She makes bow ties look phenomenal. Also, one of my favorite American made brand is Kiel James Patrick. He is coming out with a new collection of bow tie bracelets. I’m in heaven.

If the bow tie is a little too boyish for you, then try a similar idea with a scarf!

If scarves are still to big for you, then rock a lady tie! They are basically necklaces for your shirt.

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This trend may be new for some, but in reality, it’s only resurfacing. We saw this hit in 2009, but the masses are just now picking it up. That shouldn’t surprise you though, because when a new idea occurs we are usually slow to adapt.

TIE-STYLE

Whether it’s for a costume or to show your trendy side,  rock a bow tie and you can’t go wrong.

p.s. Check out my latest Style post for Fleur Ibis!

p.p.s. I graduate in 40 days. Thank you Shutterfly.

There’s something trickling down…

FALL TRENDS ARE!

There are certain things that just make me smile- some call these God-Winks. I love when I see trends hit mainstream that I have seen grow from the beginning. It makes me feel like I’m in the exact field I’m supposed to be in.

So, what exactly does it mean to “trickle down” ? Basically, these trends have made their way from couture to the masses.
For example...
-neon pants: I first saw these at J. Crew last November and loved them from the get-go. I have seen them reach the mass market- they now sell them in places like American Eagle and JC Penney for 1/3 of the price they cost at J. Crew last year.
-mens statement socks: I caught on these from David Wolfe this spring and fell for the fun nature. I searched long and hard to find my dad some (and eventually did from ASOS) but now they are more available and in a wider range of colors and patterns. I just love the way a fun pair of socks peeks out from under mens trousers.
-Peplums: This blast from the past of Christian Dior’s New Look has successfully made it from couture to college kids (and others for that matter). It has been popular on dresses, skirts, and tops, but will probably start to fade out soon.
-hi-low/mullet skirts:  Jason Wu wowed the crowd with this form of skirt for Spring 2012. I made one of these for myself early spring because I couldn’t find one that I liked. Now, however they are available in all different fabrics and colors.
Fall is basically a month away (September 22)… Can you feel it in the air? Fat chance if you’re in Texas; the heat is still upon us.  Though we may not be able to feel the cool air yet, let’s look at some of the hottest trends this fall.
DENIM: If you’ve been reading my previous blog posts, you know that I’m a huge fan of denim. It goes with anything and is so classic. It’s originally a trickle up trend…Coal miners wore jeans and then the upper class wanted them too! I’m very happy this trend is being carried into the fall. (Not that I’d stop sporting it if it “went out of style”…I really just do what I want.)  The up and coming trend for denim is to be faded and ripped. I personally don’t know if I will participate, mainly because I love my dark jeans so much and I already went through my distressed denim phase. Does that make me old? Oh well, here are some looks off the runway.
PRINTS:
          –ANIMAL SKINS: This spring at FGI career day, David Wolfe said that cheetah was out- if you wore it you were either a superstar or a slut. I refuse to believe that, as I love it, even enough to have J. Crew cheetah Cafe Capris.  He said that zebra would be in, but that’s not what I think… There’s an influx of reptile print, snake more specifically. Michael Kors was one of many who participated in this trend for 2012.
      -AZTEC/NAVAJO: This print started popping up in stores as early as last winter and was all over the Dallas Market last week. From sweaters, to mini-skirts, this print is easy to wear. I purchased this Buffalo sweater and can’t wait to sport it this fall.
      –CHEVRONS: This isn’t as big as the previous two prints, but I think it will be around long enough to be considered a fad. Rachel Bilson is one of many celebs who have been seen wearing them.
DECORATIVE COLLARS: Louis Vuitton put a beautiful Peter Pan Collar necklace on the runway earlier this year and everyone else seemed to love it.  The craze is beginning to become more mainstream and will probably hit its peak this winter. Kate Spade just came out with bedazzled PPC  on blouses and they’re sure to be a hit. I worked at the Dallas Market last week and one of the most popular blouses had a lace collar! For those who can’t purchase the higher end garments, there are collar necklaces available at every price point. My friend Rachel bought her collar necklace last spring…it’s no wonder she’s a fashion major.
Coming soon:
MENSWEAR: This makes me oh so happy. There were some girls who came into JCP this summer for bowties…for themselves. I wanted to reach across the cash wrap and hug them. You’d know this if you read this post. I love when women done menswear in a chic manor. Urban Outfitters has some manikins with bowties for girls. I’m not really sure if this will hit the masses, but the menswear influence is definitely coming.
WIDE LEGGED PANTS: no, not bell bottoms- big pants all around…kind of like long gaucho pants. These are great if you can pull them off. I’m looking for a good pair, but have yet to find some. There were quite a few pairs of these at market, which inspired me to look harder to find some! I can’t wait until these Mink Pink ones are available.
New IT color: Mint has been one of my favorite colors this season and I will definitely continue wearing it, but it’s fixing to get kicked to the curb. This fall, Oxblood- a rich, deep redish hue, is going to make a scene. Basically, Oxblood is the new mint.
GATSBY: Like it or not, movies greatly influence trends. Remember when Kate Hudson wore Uggs with mini skirts in Raising Helen? That was the beginning of the snow boot being widely popular. Sadly, The Great Gatsby release has been pushed back to the Spring, but it will definitely still influence fashion; it’s trends are probably better suited for spring anyway. (pun intended) The Dallas Market theme this August was “Gatsby Goes Modern.”  It was amazing!
On that note, I’ll end with a quote from the The Great Gatsby:
“Can’t repeat the past?… Why of course you can!”
-F. Scott Fitzgerald
After all, fashion is really just a repetition of what has already been done…

It’s probably a good thing I don’t have a boyfriend because…

…he would probably break up with me for stealing his clothes.

HAH. I couldn’t help but title this post  like that. It’s actually not about relationships at all.

But really.

Now I’m not referring to the “ohhh I’m your girlfriend now; let me wear you shirt to bed” type thing. I’m talking about actual garments. I have a current obsession with menswear. You can find me shopping the mens department or altering items from their section to fit my body better.

Exhibit A: I bought this American Living Chambray shirt at JC Penney’s. When I purchased it my co-workers asked who it was for. When I told them it was for me they gave me quite  funny looks.

But when I wore this outfit to work they changed their minds completely.

Exhibit B: I stumbled upon this Stafford oxford shirt at JC Penney and fell in love with the green and white striped pattern, so I had to get it. Naturally.

Again, my co-workers thought I was crazy when I got it, but when I wore it to work, they all wanted one!

Exhibit C: Last fall I purchased these Oxford Shoes and my roommates told me they looked like a grandma shoe. I told them just to wait it out because soon they’d be popular.  Of course when they popped up in J. Crew’s magazine, I happily rubbed it in their faces. These shoes are based off mens oxfords but are made for women. I love sporting them.

Exhibit D: It’s no secret: I love Mary-Kate and Ashley.   They have a line called Olsenboye at JC Penney and I always try to shop that section. I found these combat boots and thought they’d be the perfect fit for my fall wardrobe. Of course, they’re based off combat boots worn in war, typically by men.

Those are just a few examples. I would love to find a way to wear skinny ties in a girlier way, because I would make so many to wear. I’m already experimenting with making “hair ties.” Literally.

I’m not quite sure where this obsession stemmed from. I’d like to say Coco Chanel, but who knows?  One of her biggest complaints with other designers of her time was that they constricted women. She described her style very differently and it’s the way I usually feel when I sew apparel. In her own words she said:

“I make fashions women can live in, breathe in, feel comfortable in, and look young in.”

20, Single, and Childless.

Suzie*: “Lauren, how many kids you got?”

Me: “um…none.”

Suzie: “what?! Why?”

*name has been changed

This is regular everyday conversation with one of my JCP co-workers. I’m 99% sure (and 60% of the time I’m right every time) that I’m the only female in the building who doesn’t have a child or a baby daddy. Let me say that this post is not against men, relationships, or babies…I like them all. These is a meer perspective. (See proof below).

I was actually asked by one of my co-workers if I was married. (He saw my Baylor seal ring that has diamonds on it) While I wanted to say “It’s on my right hand not my left hand, idiot,” I kind of chuckled  and replied with a simple “nope.”
The conversation of course continued on from there. I was then asked if I had “a man”. When I said “no”” the response was “What? no boyfriend? You need one.” Welp. That’s a big, fat lie. I don’t need one. So far all they’ve done is just caused extra drama or trouble to my life. *Key word: So far. I’m a rather simple person- the most high maintenance thing about me is my hair, so any dramatization or mind games are a major turn off.  No, I’m not against relationships, boys, or marriage. I’m just not going to go around seriously dating someone I couldn’t see myself marrying. Quite frankly I feel like too much pressure is put on young people to get married. *there’s nothing wrong with people getting married right after college- some of my best friends are and I’m so happy for them! I’m just saying there’s quite a bit pressure to and seeing as I graduate in less than 160 days I won’t be taking that path…
 For example, I told a guy a while ago that I was graduating in December. He replied with “Well you have 6 months to get your Ring by Spring…better get working on that.” For those of you who don’t know what I’m referring to, you can read this post. Basically lots of girls at Baylor get engaged by Spring of their senior year.  I was kind of taken aback when he said that. I don’t need a ring by spring. I’m probably going to get slapped by a truckload of Baylor girls for saying this, but it honestly doesn’t appeal to me. Why do what everyone else is doing? I’m a dreamer and there’s things that I’d like to do before I settle down. Sure when someone comes along dreams often change, but until God shows me that I’m going to keep on following the current path he has for me, whatever that may be.
Sororites at any given college have a stereotype. I am a Tri Delta at Baylor and our stereotype is being “the marrying kind”. That being said, there really isn’t a meeting in the Spring without someone having a Candle Pass for their engagement. I personally don’t give a flying flip about getting to do a Candle Pass…that just isn’t important to me. I don’t know if it’s because I was raised to be independent or if it’s the fact that all my favorite icons didn’t really rely on men: Coco Chanel, Queen Elizabeth I, Audrey Hepburn… The thing I think that contributes most to my way of thinking is that I learned (the hard way) that you cannot depend on other people for your happiness…especially romantic relationships. True joy and happiness come from God- people will always let you down. Because of that, I don’t look to a relationship to feel good about myself.
This whole tangent about Baylor and relationships leads right back to what my co-workers have said to me. They have voiced to me that must live a sad and lonely life because not only do I not have children, but I currently don’t have a boyfriend. Actually it’s quite the opposite. I’m living in the peace that God has an infintely greater plan for me than I could ever imagine. I’m not desperate for a relationship- I’d rather have a really good one than 20 bad ones and 2 baby daddys. Yes, I know that relationships can fail even with good intentions, but as long as I live my life with open hands and the knowledge that God gives and takes for the better I’m golden. I know quite a few people who just settle for whatever comes their way. As humans we are too easily pleased.